Bipolar Doesn’t Make You A Bitch

There is a partner in the new place I work that’s a bit, hmmm, shall we say, odd?

Not odd by my standards, pretty normal to me, but everyone else finds her odd, or maybe it’s just her ways they find odd.  Personally I haven’t found a problem with her, apart from the constant gossip about her is getting kind of boring.

She has a particular way of doing things. I can put up with this because everyone has their ways of doing things and, in a work environment, I can bend to that.  She gets upset if things aren’t done properly.  And when I say “upset” I mean, she comes across as a bit fierce and people assume their heads are being bitten off, but I think she just doesn’t know another way of getting her point across.  She isn’t personally offensive to people, she just tells them what they are doing wrong and how she would like them to right it.  I guess you could call her a bit tactless sometimes, she calls a spade a spade, but I prefer that to people skirting around the issue.

My head hasn’t been bitten off yet. I’m still on probation, therefore, still on my best behaviour and I guess she wouldn’t want to scare the new people off.  People don’t like her much, due to her biting head of tendencies, but I was surprised that people think “she must be bipolar” because of the way she is.

People think she is a bitch. Just because someone is a bitch, doesn’t mean they are bipolar.  Bipolar doesn’t make you a bitch. Sometimes you can be a bitch and not bipolar.  Sometimes you can be bipolar and a bitch.  It seems people do not understand what bipolar is, how it affects yourself and other people and I find it offensive that they would want to slip lithium into her tea, as well as stating that she should be sectioned.

Gah.

I wish I had the guts to stand up for her, and people with bipolar, and people who have been sectioned, and bitches for that matter, and tell it to them how it can be because I’ve fucking lived all three.  I feel their perceptions are wrong and need challenging.  But even though I’m bipolar, I don’t feel like being a bitch (at least not to their face).

It would probably just all fall on deaf ears. I fear that people will assume I am attention seeking, or whining or I just can’t be bipolar/borderline because I’m too nice. Just because you’re nice, doesn’t mean you can’t be a bitch. Just because you’re nice doesn’t mean you can’t be mental.  Some mental people are not nice.  Some normal people are not nice.  Some mental people are bitches.  Some normal people are mental. Mental people are normal.  Mental normal people are nice. And whatever combination you can come up with. People are people, somethings make some people tick and not others.  But she is not bipolar.  I’m not a psychiatrist, but my experience tells me otherwise (maybe it’s like gay-dar?)

My second day on the soap box.  I’ll step off again for a bit now.

Love Sailor xox

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About Hellosailor

Writer, painter, nurse. Borderline, Bipolar, awesome.
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11 Responses to Bipolar Doesn’t Make You A Bitch

  1. Pen says:

    Wholeheartedly agree! Well said! I hear bipolar and “mental/crazy” jokes at my office too and I have a hard time saying anything. Mostly because I just don’t like taking personal stuff at work, so I don’t want them to know anything personal about me.
    It’s really unfortunate this is a common “joke” that’s made about someone who may just be tactless or firm with their desires.

  2. Yeah, I hate that people often equate changing moods to bipolar disorder. Everyone has mood changes sometimes. There’s more at play than that.

    I think some people didn’t want to diagnose me as borderline because I’m too “nice” . . .

    (Although I find my opinion these days leans closer to bipolar disorder than borderline personality disorder, which, well, the line sometimes seems murky to me.)

    What frustrates me is when even professionals believe in stereotypes. Grr.

  3. simplybluey says:

    I am feeling very protective of the odd and mental today as it has been one of those days. I love your post and totally agree. People need to realize that their idea of “normal” my not be everyone’s idea of normal and that odd/mental people may find them quite twisted…okay I am going now..lol xx

  4. I can see how this is frustrating! Some people just don’t understand mental illnesses, and they think it’s funny to joke about it. If they lived it, I’m sure they wouldn’t be so quick to joke! Anyway, who wants to be normal? Hugs xxx

  5. gypsy116 says:

    See, I wouldnt be able to not say anything, but I guess thats just the bitch in me, oh, wait, I dont have Bipolar, I forgot that means I must not be a bitch. Sigh.

  6. unfetteredbs says:

    good step up to the soap box lady.. very good

  7. ruben says:

    Loved the whole subject. i was once with a little crush on a bipolar girl, who said she was in love with me. i gave into those feelings, and then she stopped talking to me. But i consider myself an intelligent person, a conscious person,, after much thinking, i reached the conclusion, that it wasn’t the fact that she was bipolar, that was making her behave so coldly, being bipolar doesn’t affect your ethics, the fact was that she was a bitch, so i was free to say, fuck you bitch!
    ps: one of the big problems is that some bipolar people, actually think, being bipolar makes them a bitch or a bastard or a bad person, so they hide behind the disease, they say, like she said to me: its not my fault, im bipolar.

  8. Jen says:

    I wonder if you could ask a simple question that might get them thinking?

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